Crysti Couture

Quite honestly, I don’t think that even we understand what we want sometimes.

Since women sprang forth from the ether, from the mud, from Adam‘s forsaken rib or what have you, women have been ridiculed and misunderstood. No other country knows this better than the grand ol’ U. S. of A.; yes, the Land of the Free, the Land of Opportunity and Land of the Brave.

What they should have dubbed it is ‘Land of Misogyny‘ or ‘Land of Classism‘ or even ‘Land of Conflicting Attitudes Toward Gender’, but of course that wouldn’t really fit, now, would it?

For as long as I have been alive -which hasn’t been very long- the attitudes that our culture has had towards women has teeter-tottered between different poles of beliefs.

Women belong in the kitchen.
Women deserve to have their voice heard.
Women are too emotional to hold a position of power.
Women are Goddesses of love and passion, worthy of our adoration.
Women are heartless sluts.

Women have experienced more cultural schizophrenia than any other racial background, monetary class or even animal classification for that matter. Yet we resolve to move forward, while looking fabulous and keeping the house spotless and patiently wait for the next wave of cultural bipolarism.

Now having said that, it’s no surprise that Men in general have not stopped to smell the flowers and actually have gotten to know their fellow bed-mate. Shit, for as long as science has been around, Man has been desperately trying to unlock the secrets of that sweet little button below the navel that somehow seems to get us off.

Some women have conceded to defeat, faking their expertly acted orgasms and given up the hope that any man will ever truly understand what we want. This isn’t only in reference to sex either. I also mean around the house, in the workplace, on our media and governing the country, too.

Others, like myself have hope in Man. That Man will someday find that sweet spot: that happy medium that’s not too rough and not too soft. That Man may someday see us Women as an equal, a partner and an ally. Will Men ever accept us as that?

It’s ironic then that Women have been jumping through hoops for generations, trying to get ahead in this World and trying to fit the status quo. It’s no wonder that we often find ourselves confused about what we Need versus what we Want.

Needless to say, the following Universal Truth’s can be said about Women and What We Want:

1. In relationships, we want a man who can be our equal and understand that our actions and opinions are just as valid and just as profound as theirs may be.
2. In life, we want to be seen as perfectly capable individuals. That we can be just as smart, just as cunning and just as pioneering in every aspect of life that there is.
3. In culture, we want to be recognized and utilized for our ability to over analyze things. We are often called nit picky and overly fussy, but our natural character to read between the lines and pay attention to every micro detail is useful for many political applications.
4. Women love confident men. Confident men are not cocky, boastful or arrogant. They are all about attitude and what they know they can offer. They’d rather show you what they can do than tell you about it.
5. Sexually, all humans desire praise. Women are no exception. Sure, a nod to perfecting the perfect technique is appreciated, but what Women love is to be praised for their body. We are all built differently but to know that our bodies are your song, your joy and your pleasure is well worth a few words at least.
6. Emotions seem to be the harbinger of death for Men sometimes. If only Men were in touch with their Yin a little more than their Yang, the world would be a lot more peaceful place and so would relationships.

That’s all for my little random social commentary. I hope to live to see the day that a Woman becomes President or to see the day that a Woman can be as equally respected as a Man without question or doubt.

Here’s to you, ladies. Cheers.